NY Times Asks Marriage Questions -- TPV Translates!
From the current #1 story on NY Times:
Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying
Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:
1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
[I really think you are better with kids.]
2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
[Let's talk prenup.]
3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
[Can we afford an illegal domestic worker?]
4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?
[What are those pills you take when you think I'm not looking?]
5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
[Will you give me foot rubs?]
6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
[Just how kinky are you? Can you be kinkier?]
7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?
[That might be kinky, if used properly.]
8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
[Do I have to stop paying attention to Monday Night Football when you are yammering on the couch?]
9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
[Wait, I thought we decided you will take care of the kids.]
10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
[Remember when we had friends, before we had the kids?]
11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
[Will you be able to put my parents in the home?]
12) What does my family do that annoys you?
[Please limit your answer to the first 500 complaints you can think of.]
13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
[Apart from freedom, of course.]
14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
[One day, or would we need at least a week?]
15) Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
[Who will get the television when we split up?]
Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying
Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:
1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
[I really think you are better with kids.]
2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
[Let's talk prenup.]
3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
[Can we afford an illegal domestic worker?]
4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?
[What are those pills you take when you think I'm not looking?]
5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
[Will you give me foot rubs?]
6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
[Just how kinky are you? Can you be kinkier?]
7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?
[That might be kinky, if used properly.]
8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
[Do I have to stop paying attention to Monday Night Football when you are yammering on the couch?]
9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
[Wait, I thought we decided you will take care of the kids.]
10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
[Remember when we had friends, before we had the kids?]
11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
[Will you be able to put my parents in the home?]
12) What does my family do that annoys you?
[Please limit your answer to the first 500 complaints you can think of.]
13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
[Apart from freedom, of course.]
14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
[One day, or would we need at least a week?]
15) Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
[Who will get the television when we split up?]
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